There was this neat short story I read called A Fable of the Living. This story touched on a very sore and vulnerable subject that I believe everyone has a hard time accepting. That is the death of a loved one and how a person copes after it happens.
This story is about a small town. In this small town, when a person dies their loved ones will write notes on pieces of paper to their passed loved one and then go to a certain field. This field has fissures where they can put the notes into and then it is believed that this is a way of speaking to their passed loved one. A new fiancé had unexpectedly died and his, what would have been, widow was having a hard time coping with the loss. She went awhile with not writing anything down. Then, by the summer, she had written down a pile of notes for her fiancé. The notes were sent into a fissure in the field and the, to her disbelief, she received a note back from her dead fiancé. They started communicating to each other through these notes. In one of the final notes that she received from her fiancé, her fiancé says that he wants her to join him and that he can’t wait. The story ends with her ending her life to be with her fiancé.
I know when Daddy died that you had a very hard time coping. You would sit in the living room all day and watch TV. I barely saw you smile for the first year. Writing notes to someone who has passed is a great coping mechanism. I don’t know about finding a field to put them into, but otherwise I think that it would be a good idea for you to write any notes down that you still have to say to Daddy. Just don’t do anything dire.
I love you Mommy,
Your Sunshine